Feeling Guilty last 2, 3 days.
One of my friend was loving a girl. The girl's mother and brother(her father passed away long time back) came to know about their love and they were not ready accept it. My friend planned to run away and get married. We all(Friends) came to know about it and advised him to not to do that and asked him to wait until her family accepts. But, he did not mind whatever we said. He just asked us "whether you guys will help me or not?". After all he is our friend So we decided to help him out.
Saturday night, She informed him that she would be coming to Murugan Temple on Sunday. So last Sunday, Morning 6.00 am we(10 guys) left from my house and followed her from her home till she reaches the temple. Four of us including our hero went inside the temple following her and remaining 6 guys stayed out with a car and 2 bikes. She, her mother and her brother were praying all the gods and walking inside the temple. Suddenly that girl ran away with my friend but her brother and her mother did not notice that for few seconds. Then one of my friend and I saw that they were searching their girl. Still that moment stays in my eyes. Then I realized that we did a mistake. We could feel her mother's pain.
We asked my friend to inform her brother or mother that you people ran away so that they will come to know. But my friend did not do that saying that they will find us. What a fool he is!? So selfish. Finally, we traveled around 150 kms then they got married in a temple then they went to guy's house traveling 150 kms back.
After I saw her mother searching her daughter in the temple. I felt very guilty. I felt I did a very big mistake. Not only me but all my friends felt guilty. I realized now, I am sure I will not do such a mistake again in my life. Though its legal that two majors can get married and no one can stop them. But still running away from home is not acceptable.
Girls please don't do that mistake again.
-A Friend
Parents can express that they don't like the child's lover or explain why they think that this marriage may not be good for them. But they shouldn't prevent their children from getting married to the person they like, even if the parents do not like it.
ReplyDeleteThe situation where the child has to marry secretly/run-away, shows some mistake on the part of parents as well. Also whenever it is a mistake of children, definitely their parents can be blamed for bad parenting. If the mother is sad, it is because of her actions.
So do not feel very guilty.
@Nikanth, u r right.
ReplyDeleteWe are seeing in lot of movies, by the grace of current media we r seeing hell lot of incidents. But,why do parents still object?? Wont they think that their kid can also elope?
They knew all that. But, they r confident about their kids, the love and affection they gave to their kids. Every parent will think that their kid is not like others. He is the best in the world.
Its on the kid to show them to bring them to the reality by running away.......
Initially parents may reject. Why cant kids try till last minute to convince them before taking the step to elope making them realize what all consequences can happen??
Hmmm... different ppl.. differnt brains.. different views... its just my view. :)
RGB, Sankarlal: After a certain age, it is difficult to get children (physically straining as well as during the time of kid's marriage parent's health will matter, etc.) so one should get married and get a kid at the right age. So I believe the decision made by the girl is fine, as long as she is not <25 years old.
ReplyDeleteIt is completely the fault of the mother and there is nothing that you need to feel guilty about.